返朴归真:去掉外在的装饰,恢复原来的质朴状态。
再深一层地探讨这四个字的意义。人的本质,一开始是纯洁,善良的。随着年龄的增长,接触了四周围的人,事与物后,慢慢地形成了自己思想与处事待人的一贯准则。不知不觉地,人的本质也开始变了。在金钱挂帅的社会里,人对物质的享受与期待,玷污了纯洁的心灵。价值观变了质,对亲情的看待也变淡了,没那么重要了。金钱能换来的享受与快乐,真的那么重要吗?那是一种持久不衰的快乐吗?在追求物质享受的过程中,忽略了对家人的关心与爱护,值得吗?
请放慢脚步,歇一歇,想一想。试试轻轻地聆听自己心灵深处的呼唤。尝试脱掉自己精心粉刷上的外壳,看一看自己内心“反扑归真”的状态,
想一想在你百年归老的那刹那,你最想要的,应该是什么东西。
那就是你生命里最最最重要的一件东西。换一换你前进的方向,往你该神往的目标前进吧!
(单单是名与利吗?再仔细地想一想。。。)
Showing posts with label 感想. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 感想. Show all posts
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
退一步天高地阔
今天同事让我看了以下这段:
≪须交有道之人,莫结无义之友。饮清静之茶,莫贪花色之酒。开方便之门,闲是非之口。静坐常思己过,闲谈莫论人非,能受苦乃为志士,肯吃亏不是痴人,敬君子方显有德,怕小人不算无能,退一步天高地阔,让三分心平气和,欲进步需思退步,若着手先虑放手,如得意不宜重往,凡做事应有余步。≫
我感触良多。简单的处事之道,应当时时提醒自己,常常自律己言与行。
≪须交有道之人,莫结无义之友。饮清静之茶,莫贪花色之酒。开方便之门,闲是非之口。静坐常思己过,闲谈莫论人非,能受苦乃为志士,肯吃亏不是痴人,敬君子方显有德,怕小人不算无能,退一步天高地阔,让三分心平气和,欲进步需思退步,若着手先虑放手,如得意不宜重往,凡做事应有余步。≫
我感触良多。简单的处事之道,应当时时提醒自己,常常自律己言与行。
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
知其不可为而为之
不知不可为而为之,愚人也;
知其不可为而不为,贤人也;
知其不可为而为之,圣人也。
一个人不知道一件事该不该做,而糊里糊涂地做了,是愚人。
一个人知道一件事是不该做的,而就不去做那件事,是贤人。
一个人明知道一件事是不该做的,但必须做而去做,是圣人。
我乃愚人,贤人也。
圣人?不敢当哟!
知其不可为而不为,贤人也;
知其不可为而为之,圣人也。
一个人不知道一件事该不该做,而糊里糊涂地做了,是愚人。
一个人知道一件事是不该做的,而就不去做那件事,是贤人。
一个人明知道一件事是不该做的,但必须做而去做,是圣人。
我乃愚人,贤人也。
圣人?不敢当哟!
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Saturday, May 7, 2011
五月七日 - 平凡的一天
今天一大清早,我和我老爹就到投选站去投票了。投选站里气氛严肃,大家也没怎么多谈,井井有条地排队等候投票。不一会儿的功夫,我们就投了票,往咖啡店走去吃早餐咯!走着走着,我不禁地想想,新加坡办什么活动,做什么事情都那么地有效率。
说也奇怪,经过这期间所亲身体验到的,大家对大选沸腾的议论,在今天投选的日子里,什么高昂的情绪都已经冷却下来了。五月七日对我来说,只不过是平凡的一天。
今天,我和爸爸有机会到咖啡店里吃早餐,聊聊当年我小时后的往事,唤起了不少美丽的回忆。心里好开心。这种感觉对我来说比大选还重要。亲情是无价的。
说也奇怪,经过这期间所亲身体验到的,大家对大选沸腾的议论,在今天投选的日子里,什么高昂的情绪都已经冷却下来了。五月七日对我来说,只不过是平凡的一天。
今天,我和爸爸有机会到咖啡店里吃早餐,聊聊当年我小时后的往事,唤起了不少美丽的回忆。心里好开心。这种感觉对我来说比大选还重要。亲情是无价的。
Friday, April 22, 2011
你曾经有过这样的感觉吗?
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你以为你已经做了决定,去追寻你以为你想要拥有的东西。可是当你接近目标时,目标总是忽近忽远的,让你无法琢磨。这时的你又不知所措,退了一步,想一想,这真的是你想要的吗?
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你鼓起勇气去追求她的愛,好想好想得到她的承诺,和她共渡美好的将来。可是她拒绝了。“现在不是时候,我还有很多自己想要做的事,想要追逐的梦想。让时间证明一切,如果有缘的话,我们会在一起的。”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你害怕失去现在和她拥有的一切。无形的默契,快乐的时光,无私的友情。她不在的时候,你会想她。好想听一听她的声音,享受她的关怀。可是你好害怕,如果你对她表示你对她的爱意,她会接受不了,离你而去。“还是保持现状吧!总有一天她会发现你的存在”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你默默地注意着她一切的一切。她不开心的时候,你也不开心。尝试逗一逗她开心。她失落的时候,你会鼓励她勇往直前。她寂寞的时候,你就陪陪她说一说话。只要她开心,你就开心了!
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?看到她,你就有一种莫名其妙的冲动想要抱一抱她,把她放在你的怀抱里,永远的保护她,不让她受任何的伤害。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你愿意为一个人,放下你一直秉持的一切,包括梦想与信仰。随她追逐她的梦想,随她去她最终要去的地方。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她到底心里有你吗?为什么她有时对你好,有时又对你不理不睬的?她把你忘了吗?其实,她还感觉不到你对她的重要。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你想为她做一些能让她开心的小惊喜。为她做她喜欢吃的东西,买她喜欢的东西,写一下小卡片,发一发小简讯,问一问她“你今天好吗?”让她觉得,她对你是多么的重要。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你盼望着她对你的一点小关心。问一问你好吗?问一问你今天工作顺利吗?祝一祝你晚安。我相信你那晚会睡的,好甜蜜好甜蜜。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她睡着了。你一直看着她睡着的样子。心里好温馨,好温馨。“你对她轻轻地说,小公主,好好地睡吧,你不用担心有我在!”她轻轻地动了一下,脸上露出了一丝幸福的表情,仿佛对你说“我知道!你对我最好!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?发白日梦的时候,想着想着,不知不觉地,想到了她。她的一举一动,笑容,冒失,堵嘴的表情。心里涌现了慕名其妙的小快乐。其实你很容易满足的,不是吗?
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?和她逗嘴时,你想让一让她。和她玩耍时,让她不觉的以为她赢了。她开心地对你说“你看!我比你厉害喔!” 你心里这时想“只要你开心就好!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你握着她的手,温暖,不是吗?不想放手。只想永远地牵一牵她的小手,摇一摇,摇到外婆桥。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你好不开心,好不开心。什么希望都没了。完蛋了。她出现了。笑一笑,对你打趣地说“你怎样了” 你笑着对她说“没事了!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她对你说的一切,你都记住了。细心地聆听她所对你说的每一句话。一天,她发觉你还记得她提过的一件事,有点惊讶。其实,很简单,对你心爱的人,记得她的一切,是一件再简单也不过的事。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?看到她不理你,或不知不觉地没注意到你,和别人聊着聊着,把你忘了。你吃醋了,心里好不是滋味。可是,当她突然朝你那边看了看,和你说了一句话。你马上原谅了她。她其实是可爱的。
你曾经有过这样的感觉吗?她不以为意地对你说,她会想你的。你当真了。开心地对她说你也很想她。其实,她只是随口说说吧了。不管怎样,你已经很满足了。
你曾经有过这些感觉吗?
总有一天, 当她也和你一样,心里有着这一切的感觉,你们就是彼此真心地爱着对方。幸福已向你们招手了!有情人终成眷属。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你鼓起勇气去追求她的愛,好想好想得到她的承诺,和她共渡美好的将来。可是她拒绝了。“现在不是时候,我还有很多自己想要做的事,想要追逐的梦想。让时间证明一切,如果有缘的话,我们会在一起的。”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你害怕失去现在和她拥有的一切。无形的默契,快乐的时光,无私的友情。她不在的时候,你会想她。好想听一听她的声音,享受她的关怀。可是你好害怕,如果你对她表示你对她的爱意,她会接受不了,离你而去。“还是保持现状吧!总有一天她会发现你的存在”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你默默地注意着她一切的一切。她不开心的时候,你也不开心。尝试逗一逗她开心。她失落的时候,你会鼓励她勇往直前。她寂寞的时候,你就陪陪她说一说话。只要她开心,你就开心了!
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?看到她,你就有一种莫名其妙的冲动想要抱一抱她,把她放在你的怀抱里,永远的保护她,不让她受任何的伤害。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你愿意为一个人,放下你一直秉持的一切,包括梦想与信仰。随她追逐她的梦想,随她去她最终要去的地方。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她到底心里有你吗?为什么她有时对你好,有时又对你不理不睬的?她把你忘了吗?其实,她还感觉不到你对她的重要。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你想为她做一些能让她开心的小惊喜。为她做她喜欢吃的东西,买她喜欢的东西,写一下小卡片,发一发小简讯,问一问她“你今天好吗?”让她觉得,她对你是多么的重要。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你盼望着她对你的一点小关心。问一问你好吗?问一问你今天工作顺利吗?祝一祝你晚安。我相信你那晚会睡的,好甜蜜好甜蜜。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她睡着了。你一直看着她睡着的样子。心里好温馨,好温馨。“你对她轻轻地说,小公主,好好地睡吧,你不用担心有我在!”她轻轻地动了一下,脸上露出了一丝幸福的表情,仿佛对你说“我知道!你对我最好!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?发白日梦的时候,想着想着,不知不觉地,想到了她。她的一举一动,笑容,冒失,堵嘴的表情。心里涌现了慕名其妙的小快乐。其实你很容易满足的,不是吗?
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?和她逗嘴时,你想让一让她。和她玩耍时,让她不觉的以为她赢了。她开心地对你说“你看!我比你厉害喔!” 你心里这时想“只要你开心就好!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你握着她的手,温暖,不是吗?不想放手。只想永远地牵一牵她的小手,摇一摇,摇到外婆桥。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?你好不开心,好不开心。什么希望都没了。完蛋了。她出现了。笑一笑,对你打趣地说“你怎样了” 你笑着对她说“没事了!”
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?她对你说的一切,你都记住了。细心地聆听她所对你说的每一句话。一天,她发觉你还记得她提过的一件事,有点惊讶。其实,很简单,对你心爱的人,记得她的一切,是一件再简单也不过的事。
你曾经有过这种感觉吗?看到她不理你,或不知不觉地没注意到你,和别人聊着聊着,把你忘了。你吃醋了,心里好不是滋味。可是,当她突然朝你那边看了看,和你说了一句话。你马上原谅了她。她其实是可爱的。
你曾经有过这样的感觉吗?她不以为意地对你说,她会想你的。你当真了。开心地对她说你也很想她。其实,她只是随口说说吧了。不管怎样,你已经很满足了。
你曾经有过这些感觉吗?
总有一天, 当她也和你一样,心里有着这一切的感觉,你们就是彼此真心地爱着对方。幸福已向你们招手了!有情人终成眷属。
Sunday, February 6, 2011
对春联
旅游时,常有很多时间花在巴士里,长途拔涉。大多数人都会趁这时睡一会儿,养养精神。
睡不着。对一对春晚节目的春联吧!
除了我在春晚节目对的第一对,我还对了另外三对,一共四对:
1)
出题~上联:春晚迎春春不晚
我对~下联:月圆赏月月是圆
这题对得最快。有可能我常写和月有关的文章,小品吧!
2)
出题~下联:五十六朵花开 五色十光六合春
我对~上联:千百万盏灯明 千家百户万事兴
哇!这题不容易啊!关键在于“五十六”以及后面与这三个数字有关的词语。我就以千对五,百对十,万对六。上联的含义还带点好兆头,还好吧!
3)
出题~上联:百善孝为先 常回家看看
我对~下联:四季春尚好 多出门逛逛
这题似乎比较容易点。刻意对,和春相关的下联, 还可以吧!
4)
出题~上联:虎步腾空去 悄然兔耳听春步
我对~下联:西下峦山中 一宿月眉探花下
这题最难!虎年一过,迎来兔年。需要对相关先后有序的下联。比如冬后迎春或夕阳西下后,月亮升起之类的。想了许久,对了很勉强,功力不深吧!不然就随便再对了多一次,比较简化但对我来说,有意义的。
再对~下联:老伴同我行 依旧携手闻花香
老伴啊!多么想再牵一牵你的手,一起走一走,做什么都好!这时我也困了。好想梦里遇见你。。。
睡不着。对一对春晚节目的春联吧!
除了我在春晚节目对的第一对,我还对了另外三对,一共四对:
1)
出题~上联:春晚迎春春不晚
我对~下联:月圆赏月月是圆
这题对得最快。有可能我常写和月有关的文章,小品吧!
2)
出题~下联:五十六朵花开 五色十光六合春
我对~上联:千百万盏灯明 千家百户万事兴
哇!这题不容易啊!关键在于“五十六”以及后面与这三个数字有关的词语。我就以千对五,百对十,万对六。上联的含义还带点好兆头,还好吧!
3)
出题~上联:百善孝为先 常回家看看
我对~下联:四季春尚好 多出门逛逛
这题似乎比较容易点。刻意对,和春相关的下联, 还可以吧!
4)
出题~上联:虎步腾空去 悄然兔耳听春步
我对~下联:西下峦山中 一宿月眉探花下
这题最难!虎年一过,迎来兔年。需要对相关先后有序的下联。比如冬后迎春或夕阳西下后,月亮升起之类的。想了许久,对了很勉强,功力不深吧!不然就随便再对了多一次,比较简化但对我来说,有意义的。
再对~下联:老伴同我行 依旧携手闻花香
老伴啊!多么想再牵一牵你的手,一起走一走,做什么都好!这时我也困了。好想梦里遇见你。。。
Saturday, February 5, 2011
韩国迎春
这一次和家人到韩国来,也是我们第一次在外国过年。春节的气氛和往年在家所感觉的截然不同,因为韩国人没有大事庆祝华人新年。虽然春意不浓,但最重要的是能和家人团聚。
年三十晚,我们恰好住的是公寓酒店,可以煮食。我们就到超市买了韩国辣年糕,饺子,炸鸡,辛辣泡面等美食,吃了一顿丰盛、难忘的团年饭。
吃了晚餐,干了几杯韩国佳酿米酒,大家都有了点醉意。刚好这时电视正在播放中国中央电视台的迎春节目。在歌舞节目的助兴下,大家有说有笑的,房里春意已浓。这时我也想起了你。往事历历在目,思念起和你往年过节的情景。
这时银幕上显示了一对上联:
春晚迎春春不晚。
节目中的主持人解说了华人每逢过节都少不了对上下联来助助兴。这时我稍有醉意,也许也因为这样,诗意也慢慢地兴起。
想了想,我就对了:
月圆赏月月是圆。
字句还满工整的。不错不错。真的又是太多闲情雅兴。我想这就是古时候,为什么诗人喜欢在喝上两杯后,在有点醉意的影响下而写诗吧!
春晚节目还播放了另外四对对联供观众对对。接下来在旅游的几天,闲着没事时,我会动动下脑子,尝试对一对。
年三十晚,我们恰好住的是公寓酒店,可以煮食。我们就到超市买了韩国辣年糕,饺子,炸鸡,辛辣泡面等美食,吃了一顿丰盛、难忘的团年饭。
吃了晚餐,干了几杯韩国佳酿米酒,大家都有了点醉意。刚好这时电视正在播放中国中央电视台的迎春节目。在歌舞节目的助兴下,大家有说有笑的,房里春意已浓。这时我也想起了你。往事历历在目,思念起和你往年过节的情景。
这时银幕上显示了一对上联:
春晚迎春春不晚。
节目中的主持人解说了华人每逢过节都少不了对上下联来助助兴。这时我稍有醉意,也许也因为这样,诗意也慢慢地兴起。
想了想,我就对了:
月圆赏月月是圆。
字句还满工整的。不错不错。真的又是太多闲情雅兴。我想这就是古时候,为什么诗人喜欢在喝上两杯后,在有点醉意的影响下而写诗吧!
春晚节目还播放了另外四对对联供观众对对。接下来在旅游的几天,闲着没事时,我会动动下脑子,尝试对一对。
Friday, January 21, 2011
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Monday, November 29, 2010
勾勾小手指

“你答应我的!不要反悔喔!来。。我们勾勾小手指,如果你骗我,你就变成小狗狗!喔喔喔!”
当我听到这首安全地带的歌“ゆびきり” (翻译: 勾勾小手指,pinky promise),我想起我们一向来达成协议时,一惯的作风,勾勾小手指。。。
“不行,我不放心。怕你耍赖,我们勾勾小手指。你可知道后果喔!”
当我刚认识你的时候,就觉得你很可爱。做约定时,你总是喜欢和我打勾勾。。。
“喂!你看!反悔是不是!你惨咯!”
当我不遵守诺言时,我总是会“胆战心惊”一下, 深怕我真的会受到惩罚。其实我怕的是看到你那失望的眼神。。。
“好啦!原谅你啦!下次不行咯!等等。。没有下次咯!”
当你一次又一次地原谅我时,我总觉得好惭愧,心想一定不能再令你失望了。。。
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“来。。我们再勾一勾小手指,打印。这一次我不会反悔,也不会再让你失望了。相信我。。。”
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Sep 9 9.09pm 九月九日二零零九年。九点零九分。长长久久
Friday, August 27, 2010
平常心
【明慧學校】十餘載匆匆流逝,在浮浮沉沉的生活中,總在不斷尋覓生活的真諦。曾經有過物是人非的感慨,曾經有滿懷傷感的希冀,曾經有隨波逐流的漂泊,終於大夢初醒──要有一顆平常心。
平常心是顆榮辱不驚的心。它能夠視金錢如糞土,視功名為過眼煙雲。愛因斯坦把鈔票當書簽,居理夫人把諾貝爾獎牌給女兒當玩具。莫笑他們的“荒唐”之舉,這正是他們淡泊名利的平常心的表現。拜倫說:“真有血性的人,決不乞求別人的重視,也不怕被人忽視。”擁有平常心,你也就擁有了人格魅力,也就能任雲捲雲舒去留無意。
平常心是顆理解、寬容、忍讓的心。歡樂別人的歡樂,痛苦別人的痛苦,喜悅別人的喜悅。多一份理解和關愛,世界就多一份美好。當你用一顆平常心去對待生活,你就會發現:真情,就在你身邊。
平常心是顆堅強的心,不畏泥濘路,不怕風雪夜。它始終奮勇向前,永不倒下。記憶中怎麼也忘不掉那顆柔弱的小草,在陡峭的斷岩上,在狂風中它幾乎要被連根拔起,但它搖曳的身姿卻透出它的堅強不屈與從容不迫。這不知多少次讓我肅然起敬。擁有平常心,你就會奮發進取。
平常心是顆尊重別人的心。尊重別人的勞動、人格、理想、信仰等。尊重使自己無形間得到好的修養,感受到精神的美。尊重是對別人,也是對自己。
平常心如流淌的河,雖然時而波濤洶湧,水流湍急,時而微波蕩漾,漣漪不斷,但任何東西都不能擋住它的去路。它永遠碧綠無瑕,清徹剔透。在忙碌的人世生活中,有一顆平常心,就能把平靜留下,把真誠留下,把智慧留下。
(http://www.minghui-school.org/school/article/2007/6/15/64556.html)
平常心是顆榮辱不驚的心。它能夠視金錢如糞土,視功名為過眼煙雲。愛因斯坦把鈔票當書簽,居理夫人把諾貝爾獎牌給女兒當玩具。莫笑他們的“荒唐”之舉,這正是他們淡泊名利的平常心的表現。拜倫說:“真有血性的人,決不乞求別人的重視,也不怕被人忽視。”擁有平常心,你也就擁有了人格魅力,也就能任雲捲雲舒去留無意。
平常心是顆理解、寬容、忍讓的心。歡樂別人的歡樂,痛苦別人的痛苦,喜悅別人的喜悅。多一份理解和關愛,世界就多一份美好。當你用一顆平常心去對待生活,你就會發現:真情,就在你身邊。
平常心是顆堅強的心,不畏泥濘路,不怕風雪夜。它始終奮勇向前,永不倒下。記憶中怎麼也忘不掉那顆柔弱的小草,在陡峭的斷岩上,在狂風中它幾乎要被連根拔起,但它搖曳的身姿卻透出它的堅強不屈與從容不迫。這不知多少次讓我肅然起敬。擁有平常心,你就會奮發進取。
平常心是顆尊重別人的心。尊重別人的勞動、人格、理想、信仰等。尊重使自己無形間得到好的修養,感受到精神的美。尊重是對別人,也是對自己。
平常心如流淌的河,雖然時而波濤洶湧,水流湍急,時而微波蕩漾,漣漪不斷,但任何東西都不能擋住它的去路。它永遠碧綠無瑕,清徹剔透。在忙碌的人世生活中,有一顆平常心,就能把平靜留下,把真誠留下,把智慧留下。
(http://www.minghui-school.org/school/article/2007/6/15/64556.html)
Your Legacy Lives On...
Dear Wai-lin,
You know what makes you so special? Not only to me but to everyone else who knows you?
Recently, I had the chance to talk to a lot of your friends, relatives, colleagues, students…some of whom I’ve never spoken to before. Through our conversations, I come to realize that you have got this “universal appeal” which everyone remembers so fondly of. (Pardon my English and at this early hour I can’t think of “THE WORD” or “PHRASE” to better describe it). “以平常心对待所有人,事与物” will be a better phrase to convey what I meant. I shall attach in my next blog this Chinese online article that describes aptly what is meant by “平常心”。
By “universal appeal”, I mean you come across to everyone as a bubbly, cheerful, positive and sincere person; you embrace life with energy, like to look at things from a positive angle and thinks that every person has a good soul. It is with this common approach to life that you’ve touched so many people with the same graciousness, openness and sincerity. True enough, we are humans, not gods. We are not infallible and do grumble a bit when the goings get tough. But everyone who knows you, knows that when you faced difficulties, you would pick yourself up pretty fast and take up the challenges bravely. My dear, you are so special in this sense and to me, as your husband, you’ve taught and inspired me a lot. Thanks to your constant encouragements and words of wisdom, I am where I am today in my career and life. It might not be a great one but at least it’s something that I worked hard for with you and something both of us can be proud of.
And like what you think of others, you have a kind soul too. Couple with that, you have a big heart. Your mum will always recall how you had helped those needy tuition kids of yours when you’re still schooling. Most often, you would forgo the tuition fees or spend the fees on assessment books for your kids. When you heard about the Asian Tsunami which took away so many lives, you were saddened by the news and immediately prompted me to make donations via the OCBC online contribution. Closer to home and to school, you would always tell me how some of your foreign students come from poor families and the difficulties they have to face to come to Singapore to study…. just to name a few instances.
So today, after discussing with your kind boss Regina and your parents, we have decided to donate part of your estate to RGS for the benefits of any needy students. For a start, Regina has kindly discussed with me and suggested giving out awards to the foreign scholars; the group of students who are closest to your heart. It’s a befitting cause and I am so glad that the school has given us an opportunity to contribute to a great cause. As mentioned in my previous blog post, I am so happy and glad today that I can do something on your behalf that makes you proud and happy. I am sure that you will celebrate this piece of good news with us. We know that you’ve always wanted to help those needy, to inspire those who tries hard to achieve and to reward those who achieves great results through perseverance. We can’t think of a better way to carry on your legacy than to make this contribution on your behalf.
My dear wife, to me, I mourn your untimely death; you have so much to offer to the world around us, to the people around you, to those who need your help and attention. The void you left in me and in so many of us is immeasurable. It pains all of us to think of not having you around, not around physically in narrow sense. But then again, you are actually still close to our hearts; fond memories of you still lingering, bringing smiles to us when we recall your familiar smiles, gestures and voices.
I would like to spend most part of my remaining life to reminisce those little actions of yours which touched so many people. You have lived a fruitful life, albeit a short one. You’ve accomplish more than a lot of people. You’ve contributed more to the society than a lot of people. You’ve touched more lives than a lot of people, including me. We are so proud of you; you left the world standing tall. I salute you. Your legacy lives on…
You know what makes you so special? Not only to me but to everyone else who knows you?
Recently, I had the chance to talk to a lot of your friends, relatives, colleagues, students…some of whom I’ve never spoken to before. Through our conversations, I come to realize that you have got this “universal appeal” which everyone remembers so fondly of. (Pardon my English and at this early hour I can’t think of “THE WORD” or “PHRASE” to better describe it). “以平常心对待所有人,事与物” will be a better phrase to convey what I meant. I shall attach in my next blog this Chinese online article that describes aptly what is meant by “平常心”。
By “universal appeal”, I mean you come across to everyone as a bubbly, cheerful, positive and sincere person; you embrace life with energy, like to look at things from a positive angle and thinks that every person has a good soul. It is with this common approach to life that you’ve touched so many people with the same graciousness, openness and sincerity. True enough, we are humans, not gods. We are not infallible and do grumble a bit when the goings get tough. But everyone who knows you, knows that when you faced difficulties, you would pick yourself up pretty fast and take up the challenges bravely. My dear, you are so special in this sense and to me, as your husband, you’ve taught and inspired me a lot. Thanks to your constant encouragements and words of wisdom, I am where I am today in my career and life. It might not be a great one but at least it’s something that I worked hard for with you and something both of us can be proud of.
And like what you think of others, you have a kind soul too. Couple with that, you have a big heart. Your mum will always recall how you had helped those needy tuition kids of yours when you’re still schooling. Most often, you would forgo the tuition fees or spend the fees on assessment books for your kids. When you heard about the Asian Tsunami which took away so many lives, you were saddened by the news and immediately prompted me to make donations via the OCBC online contribution. Closer to home and to school, you would always tell me how some of your foreign students come from poor families and the difficulties they have to face to come to Singapore to study…. just to name a few instances.
So today, after discussing with your kind boss Regina and your parents, we have decided to donate part of your estate to RGS for the benefits of any needy students. For a start, Regina has kindly discussed with me and suggested giving out awards to the foreign scholars; the group of students who are closest to your heart. It’s a befitting cause and I am so glad that the school has given us an opportunity to contribute to a great cause. As mentioned in my previous blog post, I am so happy and glad today that I can do something on your behalf that makes you proud and happy. I am sure that you will celebrate this piece of good news with us. We know that you’ve always wanted to help those needy, to inspire those who tries hard to achieve and to reward those who achieves great results through perseverance. We can’t think of a better way to carry on your legacy than to make this contribution on your behalf.
My dear wife, to me, I mourn your untimely death; you have so much to offer to the world around us, to the people around you, to those who need your help and attention. The void you left in me and in so many of us is immeasurable. It pains all of us to think of not having you around, not around physically in narrow sense. But then again, you are actually still close to our hearts; fond memories of you still lingering, bringing smiles to us when we recall your familiar smiles, gestures and voices.
I would like to spend most part of my remaining life to reminisce those little actions of yours which touched so many people. You have lived a fruitful life, albeit a short one. You’ve accomplish more than a lot of people. You’ve contributed more to the society than a lot of people. You’ve touched more lives than a lot of people, including me. We are so proud of you; you left the world standing tall. I salute you. Your legacy lives on…
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Feel so happy today....
Dear, I have not felt so happy for the longest time. Can't contain my excitement that I'm writing in our blog from my iPhone! (cannot access blogspot from office). But sad thing is my iPhone battery is running very low now as I type. Will talk to you later... But trust me, I m going to tell you something that you'll be thrilled to hear. As long as we know that you'd be happy, all of us would be happy! Talk to you later... Hehe keep you in suspense for a while like you always do to me... Hehe
Sunday, July 18, 2010
西藏之旅 (一)
Monday, July 5, 2010
明境,擦一擦
对一个人的爱,会随着环境的改变而淡化吗?
对一个人的思念,会随着时间的流逝,而越来越浅吗?
对一个人的记忆,会随着岁月的增长而慢慢地、慢慢地失去吗?
什么时候,才是对挥之不去的过去,说再见的时候?
什么时候,才是走出阴影,展望未来的时候?
什么时候,才是重新面对生活,鼓起勇气接受另一个挑战的时候?
我还以为我应该不负大家的期望,而积极地面对一切。
可是我发现如果要勇往直前,就得刻意地不要常回头望一望。
我还以为我不应该为过去的悲伤,而把自己的世界紧闭起来。
可是我发现如果要压抑悲伤,就得刻意地不要常怀念和你之间的感觉。
我还以为我应该开始寻我人生的目标,而不再对未来感到迷惘。
可是我发现如果要对未来积极地规划,就得刻意地不要常怀念过去。
是我不知不觉地适应了你不在我身边的感觉吗?
是我在自己意识的驱动下而花越来越少的时间想你吗?
是我慢慢地、慢慢地和你疏远了吗?
对我来说,我珍惜和你拥有的一切的一切。
对我而言,如果我轻易地让这一切悄悄地流失,
这可是一个不可原谅的过失。
这可是对你对我的爱的一大侮辱。
矛盾、迷惘。
裹足不前?进退两难?
是时候,我应该好好地自我反省、反省一下。
是时候,我去好好地散散心、好好地想一想。
几天后我会到西藏走一走,有足够的时间思考、思考一下。
老婆你不用担心,我坚信我们俩之间的情意是永恒不变的。。。
只是象明境一样,时不时得拿出来擦一擦,欣赏、欣赏一下,
自我提醒,好好反省、反省一下。
明镜呀,明镜,在这世界上,能让我们俩最开心的,是什么呢?
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